“Dislike”

Since formats for the on-line “community” of people on Facebook seems to change every other week, the frequent-users always seem to get annoyed with whatever change has happened to interupt their digital fantasyland.  (This is a classic sign that they have WAY TOO MUCH TIME ON THEIR HANDS.  Instead of complaining about THE LOOK OF A WEBSITE, they could go to a homeless shelter, clean out their closet, read a book, PRAY [imagine!]…or a host of a million and one things.)

One of the things that has really cracked me up recently is a dislike button picgrowing demand of hundreds of thousands of Facebook users for a “DISLIKE” BUTTON.  If you don’t use this online social network, Facebook’s platform is to make digital space for people to make comments that all of their friends (and the world for that matter) may see.  From posting pictures of things, making political statements, inviting someone to something, or just saying something stupid.

As someone who sees all of these comments or this activity, we have the FB option to click a button that simply says, “Like.”  I can tell someone that I like something they said or did.  The growing complaint among some Facebook users is they don’t have a “Dislike” button to convey the obnoxious reaction that should stay in their heads.  Not only do they waste all that time surfing the web–killing time looking for things to dislike–now they want to go around and leave digital disappointment here-and-there and everywhere. 

Why would anyone want to even expend the scintilla of energy to click on something that doesn’t convey love?  Where does all this crabbiness come from in our society?  Maybe it’s because the online world–when it’s all said and done–is not very human.  When “community” comes more from mouse clicks and less from hugs and human face-to-face kindness, I guess I’d be crabby, too.

If you realize you have a growing urge to want to DISLIKE something, you know that it’s time that you turn your computer off, get out of your house, walk next door to your neighbor and say something nice.  Go to your town’s train station or coffee house or McDonald’s and hold the door open for somebody.  Wash your car.  Your spouse’s car.  (Or mine.  It’s filthy.)

Is there anything more UN-likeable than unhappy people?  I officially dislike the “dislike” button idea.  I “like” nice people, though.  Will you join my crusade to change crabby people? 

Click like or dislike.

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5 thoughts on ““Dislike”

  1. I love this!! Can u shout it out to the world just one more time…Keep loving and we can definately change the world!@!

  2. okay … the other side of the coin … most of the requests I’ve seen for the dislike option is so that people can choose not to like what someone might be going through and have conveyed their tough time in their status update. One such as, “I’m sad, my dog died.” This to me is a way to use “dislike” in a loving and supportive way. Not crabby; just another form of expression. And why should we be forced to have to only like stuff anyway? I bet God would use the “dislike” button from time to time. Why not? I think logic serves that since FB is a SOCIAL networking site where friends connect, that we would all have some kind of filter on where “dislike” may or may not be appropriate. And those who don’t may or may not change their friends’ opinions of them. In any case, It’s always nice to have options.

  3. Julie, I appreciate your example of weighing in on an unhappy situation: “I’m sad, my dog died.” Of course, I don’t know how much “SUPPORT” a person is really giving to another person when they click a single button to react in an way that says, “unlike.”

    The human support would be to call, write a sentiment, go to their house, go bury their puppy with them, help them get a new pet. You get the picture. Even in the best possible usage, I can’t imagine where “unlike” is used in a deeply helpful way. (that being said, I’m not trying to make a mountain out of a molehill.)

    I just think we have a very negative culture. Cynicism and negativity are becoming too default in our human make up. (I don’t really need to show evidence for that, do I?) I just believe that institutionalizing negativity isn’t the way I think culture ought to go. It’s just a little Facebook thing, but the 48,000 groups (to “Find 1,000,000 angry Facebook users”) you can join on FB to force Facebook to add a “dislike” button seems a little much.

  4. Still don’t see the problem with giving people options. Sure we are persuaded to be negative more easily than positive (I think it’s been that way since darn near the beginning), but I don’t think that is justification to take away someone’s choice. God gives us choice. Why do we need to regulate everything? I obviously am not going to change your mind on this, … you seem to have a religious agenda … (I am a God fearing child as well, don’t get me wrong) … but maybe we don’t need to force people to be positive. Maybe forcing people into stuff is actually killing their desire to want to do the very things we are trying to force on them. Maybe people need a chance to find their own way. And if having the option of “dislike” on FB is part of that, who are we to stand in the way?
    Just my two bits.
    I see Tom’s point about YouTube. “Bookmark” would be a better option over “Favorite”.

    🙂

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